Three Ways To Find Real Friends | Immanuel Conrad Ministries

IDIOTS EVERYWHERE? TRY THESE Three WAYS TO FIND REAL FRIENDS!

HERE ARE WAYS TO AVOID IDIOTS EVERYWHERE? TRY THESE 3 WAYS TO FIND REAL FRIENDS!

SURROUNDED BY IDIOTS

If you want to be truly successful in life, aside from serving Jesus, the single most effective thing you can do is to choose your closest friends wisely. Chaplain Ronnie Melancon said, “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.” As a Believer, I think everyone deserves to be loved and cared for. In fact, Jesus said that loving the unlovely is required of anyone who follows Him (Matthew 5:45-48). Yet, who we allow to influence us determines much of our life’s ultimate destination.

My question for you today is this: if our inner circle of influence is so important, then why do so many of us hang around with fools?

If you’re struggling to build success in your life, find yourself surrounded by small-minded people, or feel like the community you’ve cultivated fails to bring about the best in you, I want to challenge your perspective on friendships today! In fact, I believe this key is so powerful that it can unlock, activate and propel you into greater kingdom impact in every area of your life!

WHY IS IT HARD FOR YOU TO LET GO OF THE FOOLS?

Solomon wrote, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm,” (Proverbs 13:20). The apostle Paul echoed his sentiment when he said, “Bad company corrupts good morals,” (1 Corinthians 15:33).

So what keeps us tethered to relationships that are hurting our God-given futures? I think the answer is three-fold:

1. We don’t know how to set boundaries with people. What I mean is, we are terrified of offending them, and so we are the victims of other people’s desires. We feel the need to accommodate everyone, and consequently, other people dictate our destiny!

2. We don’t know who we are, so hanging out with fools feels comfortable, familiar, and even reassuring. Reassuring in that being in the company of little people can make us feel big, but it’s comparative righteousness. The standard we are using to measure our progress is deceptive. Greatness isn’t a factor of comparison, but rather the result of our inner nobility which is proactively cultivated in secret; while nobody is watching. Small people are defined by the fact that they compare themselves, by themselves, which ultimately relegates them to the size of the crowd. Most of us are unaware that best-friending complainers, grumblers, victims, and pessimists are infecting our expectations and derailing our destiny.

3. Often the biggest challenge we encounter is that birds of a feather flock together. If we grew up on a chicken farm we tend not to know any eagles. Furthermore, eagles are pretty selective about who they let nest next to them…that’s why they are eagles. So finding new, healthy friends can be a slow grueling process.

MAKING GOOD FRIENDS IS OFTEN A PROCESS

“Great IMMANUEL CONRAD…thanks a lot for nothing,” you may protest!

Okay, wait a minute before you get your hemorrhoids in a knot! I said it’s tough to make friends with noble people, but it’s not impossible. It probably will take a proactive strategy, so let me give you a few insights that might make it easier:

1. Great people are not necessarily famous or public people. Trying to befriend a famous or public person will greatly narrow your chances of connection. They are usually overly busy. (I think it’s important to note here that sometimes our attraction to famous people is unhealthy in that we are trying to get our identity from who we know instead of who we are). Many great leaders are unknown by the crowd. It’s usually much easier to connect with a noble man or woman who doesn’t have a public profile. For example, PASTOR JACK SIAME is one of my great mentors. He’s had a huge impact on my life. He is wise, experienced, and always has time for me, yet most people don’t know who he is.

2. Noble people want to spend their time wisely, so helping them understand how much you value their input is paramount in connecting with them. I can’t tell you how many times people have asked for my advice then argue with me! Don’t ask a person’s opinion if you only value people who agree with you. Another thing that drives me nuts is when people ask for my input and then don’t take any of it. I’ve given many people books to read, videos to watch, and information to research. The next time I meet with them they often haven’t done anything I’ve suggested. If you want to build a relationship with a great leader, you will need to prove that you value their time and honor their input.